My boyfriend needs a break?

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We are almost 2 years together. Now he wants a break because he said he feel unhealthy in our relationship that he couldnt spend time for himshelf while I let him do everything he wants except cheating, and he said that i tried to changed him to a person he didnt want to be while everything i wanted is he giving me more careness, telling him to sleep earlier not at 5 in the moring, be mature, and wash his hands after using toilet. He said I was too much jealous, and I was crazy, and grumbled all the time. Agreed but that because he never be honest to me, and not giving me his care(not care like a child but asking me how was my day, care about me when i was sick, ext). And he said he love me a bit less. Thats why he wanted a break, and let see if he can handle everything. I am really upset but respect him to take a break but i am not sure how long should a break last?. And he said during the break, I could get to know other men if i want to. What does that even mean?. Thank you guys for helping!

Glass · Accepted Answer

This isn't a break. He broke up with you, but wants to keep you on the back burner in case he changes his mind. This is not how a man who cares for you behaves. Re-read what you wrote. You invested so much of your time and energy in to him and he never gave you a fraction back in return. He never changed in to the man you wanted him to be and he never will. Cut ties with him for good and move on. Learn from this. Men are not projects. Take them as they are and don't let them make you in to their mother. A guy who isn't already capable of being the person you want him to be on his own terms is a waste of your time.

? · Answer

There is a such a thing as BURNOUT in a relationship or a point when one of the two feels SUFFOCATED.  This is normal in humans, NOT use to Commitment or Restrictions.  Like when you have a Puppy.  It's Fun, Warm, Cuddly and Light to pick up ot have on you.  When it turns into a Dog... the story changes.

Relationships are Fun and Welcomed in the beginning, 
but changes occur in one or both persons.

It takes about 6 months to FIND OUT IF you are really Compatible.  
Most find out or realize… THEY ARE NOT.

LOVE Is NOT about being Happy. LOVE is being there “for” and “with” someone, when the Bad Stuff happens (as in for Better or Worse, in Sickness and Health, for Richer or Poorer), if you aren't up for this, you have NO BUSINESS involved in 
someone else's life. ESPECIALLY MARRIAGE.

No matter how much you Love someone or Want to be with them,  
if you are NOT COMPATIBLE, your relationship WON’T BE 
a happy one or last very long.

There will be lotsa Fights, Arguments, Insecurity and Jealousy. 
OR you’ll find out something you don’t like.

If you force yourself to be comfortable or tolerate the way you two are with 
each other for FEAR of being alone or not ever finding anyone again. 
You are NOT GOING TO MAKE IT and all your Fears will happen anyway, 
after you have lost time, money and patience with your "Wrong Mate".

If you're in a Wrong Relationship… 
break up and keep dating to find someone better. 
If you're in a Bad Marriage, cut your losses and Divorce 
before your years disappear and all you have left are REGRETS. 
People always make MISTAKES of all KINDS, but that's how you learn 
RIGHT from WRONG, GOOD from BAD. It's called EXPERIENCE.

If you are a Youngster, you will IGNORE this and learn from 
Mistakes and HeartAches.

? · Answer

dump him

My boyfriend needs a break?

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